Today I Learned . . .

You can't fight control with control, or hate with hate, or fire with fire (well sometimes you can fight with fire but we won't get into that) . . . it is just fuels the argument that you are trying to put out. Not only does it fuel their argument but then you end up catching their controlling germs and you are even worse off!

My advise is this, shut your mouth!! You will probably get into similar situations and as it is starting you will be thinking "uh oh, I should really keep my mouth shut" but then of course they say something so off course and that is so easy to correct that you get sucked in and you open your mouth and the person says ... "hmm yes, but blab blab blab" and when you say well I really don't like talking about these kinds of things because everyone can have their own interpretation and it is just a waste of time--"hmm oh yes of course, but I really think . . ."

AAUGH! These people just throw me off kilter so much--they scramble my thoughts and do not bring any sort of clarity! Their story confuses me . . . they are pointing to A while saying to K.

It helps to have a friend near by when you are confronted with such people--they watch your back.